“We are not hard wired to compete and hurt each other. We are designed to love and help each other, as is all of nature. All of life.
Life creates conditions that are conducive to life. We can too. We are a part of life.
We have been conditioned, and conditioned ourselves, to forget this.
We can remember. We can do this. And we can do it in time.
Please join me in believing this, and acting on it.” – Scout Wilkins
Does it ever feel to you like life has become one big Pinata game, where everyone is whacking away in the dark, blindfolded, trying to get something they don’t even really want? Getting whacked ourselves, and closing up, or whacking back, or ducking for cover…whatever it takes to protect ourselves from each other…
There’s so much anger, despair, hopelessness, resistance cycling through. What we we do?
We are at a time in our history when we cannot afford any actions that waste our energy, diffuse our effectiveness, or unwittingly take us in the wrong direction.
But what is that?! Every path can have so many unintended consequences that it freezes us in place, wanting to do the right thing, and even more, not wanting to do the wrong thing.
Which carries its own consequences.
But, you know. A part of you does know.
There is a way to choose. There is a way to navigate this territory.
And we all know it, at some level.
For each of us, it’s the path of our own heart’s knowing.
The problem is, we’ve largely forgotten how to listen to our own hearts.
Over time, in the Pinata game, we’ve moved farther and farther away from actually being able to hear that knowing. The fear and the “shoulds” have gotten too loud, the vigilance has gotten too intense.
Things are changing.
We are in a period of transitioning back. Re-learning what matters.
It’s like we’ve been sleepwalking, and now we’re waking up.
What we’re waking up to is the realization that we’ve been living life as that big Pinata game, and we don’t have to.
The excitement was fun for awhile, and now it’s over. We’re taking the blindfolds off and looking around, deciding what is next. Leaving the Pinata game and moving into a room in this great party where we get to do it all differently.
We’re starting to make that room our own. Some people have gone ahead, they’re already doing their part to set up the structure of the room. A few have always lived there, and they are welcoming us in. We move closer and we see it’s not even a room, anymore – it’s a whole world. It’s everything…a beautiful room and a gorgeous meadow, places of solitude where you can be alone, places of gathering together to create, and places to just get out and play and be boisterous and run around being silly.
It’s all here.
There is a caveat.
You have to leave the rules of the Pinata game behind, to be here.
The Pinata game requires that you keep the blindfold on, so you can pretend not to know what or who you are hitting. This is what makes it possible for you to close your ears to what your heart is saying.
Over here, the single rule is:
Come as you are, with an open heart.
This does not mean: Get It Perfect, or even “right” according to anyone else’s measure. You don’t have to get ANYTHING “right.” You WILL NOT get it all right. There WILL be unintended consequences. You WILL NOT KNOW, from any outside metric, the justice, the rightness or wrongness of any decision or action.
I believe life itself is asking us to let go of our insistence that we can or should know what is right.
It’s time to hand that determination back to life, and get on with living, trusting that when we come from the heart, we are doing the very best thing we can do.
What we do instead is re-learn to listen to our heart for the answer, and develop the courage to do that. External rules can no longer dictate our actions.
The foundational principle in life, as beautifully stated by the Biomimicry Institute is simple:
Life creates conditions that are conducive to life.
It is time to trust life, and listen to the desire in our hearts, which will steer us toward helping create conditions that are conducive to life.
Making a change at this core level is not easy. There are many places where your system will resist the change mightily, no matter how much you want it consciously.
The Pinata game is actually installed in your body.
But remember: it’s software, not hardware.
It lives in your memories and your beliefs, attitudes and habits. It lives in your own self-judgment and self-protection. It lives in your relationships, and your family patterns.
About ten years ago, my heart put a stop to me tolerating the Pinata game, and set me on a quest to find something different. I didn’t know what I wanted, just NOT MORE OF THIS.
I simply could not believe that I needed to take antidepressants to be able to get out of bed.
I could not believe that with all my fascinations, skills and abilities that I needed to just get a job and survive until my life was over.
I could not believe that was all my life had left in store.
I was seeking a way to come alive again. I knew myself to be more than who I was being, and I had no idea how.
I wanted out.
I have thought of this quest of mine as “the only game in town” long before I saw the pinata game for what it was. It was a knowing in my heart, and my heart wanted out.
It took me quite awhile to figure out the knots on the blindfold and the locks on the door, and I am not going to tell you that my life is now peaches and cream – but the problems I am dealing with are sure a LOT more interesting!
What I know is that there is a way to get along together, beautifully. It’s not magic and it’s not a mystery – it take understanding from a new perspective.
We are not hard wired to compete and hurt each other. We are designed to love and help each other, as is all of nature. All of life. Life creates conditions that are conducive to life. We can too. We are a part of life.
This knowing is my absolute north star. It does not mean that I have achieved full trust, and I don’t think that’s really the point. For me now, the point is to trust my own journey, trust when I trust myself, I am trusting an amazing, amazing heart, which will lead to the world I want.
Openness, connection, joy, engagement and life fully lived.
I would like to share the understandings I have developed, that have worked so well for me. They have given me a foundation to stand on and a place to relax into learning to open up and trust. It’s not the TRUTH, according to Scout (who needs that?!) it’s a series of images, a collection of stories and metaphors, which help create a way to organize the chaos and give you new things to consider, as you find your own way on your own path.
My absolute hope is that you will take what resonates and leave the rest. None of us holds the path for another.
This is not a simple conversation, but I promise to make it fun. It doesn’t have to be heavy!
I will walk you through the various aspects that need to be included in the understanding, in a way that will not be overwhelming. We’re going to play with this, tease the tangles out and weave the strands back together in a beautiful way.
I hope you’ll join me for this program. If you want to leave the Pinata game, and fundamentally change the way you interact with other people, deepen your understanding of your own edges and boundaries, remove co-dependency from your life in a loving way, and empower your entire system to function beautifully, effectively, peacefully and powerfully, these understandings, tools and skills are the best way I know to get there.