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February 2011 Newsletter

Contents:
A Note From Scout
Upcoming Events
Featured Article
This Month’s Tip
About Scout
Scout Recommends

 

A note from Scout

The big move: What a roller coaster!

A month since I shared about my move to Springdale, I’ve got lots to report. The short version: This move has been harder than I anticipated, in a way that has brought me insights that I want and need. It has been wonderful to be here in the sunshine and beauty. It has been lonely. It has forced me to look at things that I was avoiding in my life. Going into month two, happily I am back to feeling excited and motivated. 

Last weekend I went to Las Vegas to attend Bernadette Doyle’s Client Magnets event . It was a powerful three days, which got me into massive action and met one of my goals for being in Springdale, which was to be in a location where I have ready access to this sort of event. So – that item gets a check. And returning last night really felt like coming home, in a way that surprised me with its depth.

On the other hand, being out of my comfort zone has brought up all my stuff, as it does. I got to watch myself getting into motion instead of buckling down. I got to watch myself questioning my decision, before I had given it a chance. And I’ve gotten a really good chance to examine my level of commitment.

Bernadette gave me a tremendous gift on day three of our meeting, when she offered some specific, pointed and very tough coaching around the fact that I had not done the homework  assigned. The simple frame she offered is a cornerstone premise in coaching…and it’s one that I had not checked in with recently. I will describe that interaction and the amazing outcome in this month’s feature article, below.

So – this move has helped me define my questions, gain commitment, connect with a level of determination that has been elusive. It has not been easy – but it’s getting easier, and it’s only been a month. It’s been lonely – but I had dinner with a new friend last night and am on my way to a party when I get this newsletter sent out. It’s coming around, and pretty darn quickly.

The one thing I know absolutely is that the decision about where I live is secondary to maintaining my clarity around this simple premise Bernadette reminded me of.

Holding that clarity, and feeling the choice of where I live become far less pressing, I am reminded once again that I am in exactly the right place, right now, this moment.

And I can let tomorrow ask its own questions.

I hope my article below will offer you similar clarity.

 

Upcoming Events

I’m excited to report LOTS going on, coming up. Here are some of the highlights:

Where does your DOUBT derail your DESIRE?
Feb. 15, 2011 2 PM Pacific
Guest Expert for Eva Gregory’s Cosmic Living Room 

Insider Secrets for Finding, Hiring and Happily Outsourcing
to Your Own Team of Virtual Assistants
Feb 16, 2011, Noon Pacific
Because of the number of people who have asked me how to
get more done in less time, I’ve arranged to interview the
best specialist I know on this topic:
Stacy Karacostas of The Unchained Entrepreneur

Develop the Courage to LEAD in your space
Preview Call for my next training series
Feb 17, 2011 2 PM Pacific

Go Get Paying Clients Now
WellCoaches Training Series
Feb 22, 2011, 11 AM Pacific
How to get from frustration to action. Clean up your
inner conversation and shift your business success forever

Featured Article

How I got caught – and served – by coaching’s most powerful premise.

So – there I was in day three of the seminar, feeling good, happy with how I was showing up, interacting powerfully and pleasantly…when I got the rug pulled out form under me and had to look at EVERYTHING differently.

It was a simple question – Who here did the homework? Was it insightful? What did you learn? etc. A lively conversation, which led to the next obvious place…those few of us who did not raise our hands. She honed right in. And brought out the big guns, right away.

You have invested three days, everything it took to be here, have been part of this process where I have given with abandon and done everything I can to get you what you need…and yet when given one simple assignment, you chose not to do it.

Almost everyone in this room is a coach. You KNOW this premise: that how you do anything is how you do everything.

I want you to look that choice squarely in the face – and tell me what that choice tells YOU about how you are showing up in your life?

Ira got in her sights first, and that gave me time to really fall into the abyss of my feelings. As I listened to him, I felt every bit of my insides roiling like a ship on a storm tossed ocean. I was a MESS. First of all, I want to be the BEST in the room, not called on the carpet. But I had created this. My turmoil took me quickly past that piece, into the depths of where my stuff lives. Into looking at all the places where I go 90% and then stop. The places where I have pretended to myself that I am doing my best – when in fact, I am not going the last mile. The places where I don’t commit 100%

I had to look at the fact that I’m creating some kind of safety zone by not playing full out.

And I am SO THANKFUL for that. I talk about the Equation of Change*, and I know that what matters in that equation is our emotional connection to the cost of our behavior. I know that as long as we stay in our heads around a big problem, we will not change. When we feel it in our gut, in every ounce of our being, THAT is when we change.

And I have been in that place – in my head – around self-discipline and commitment.

Benadette’s gift was to solidly and permanently hook me up with the visceral sense of not truly commiting. As I write this, I can STILL feel it – and with that feeling, there is a WONDERFUL new sense of solidity inside. I feel hooked up with my inner determination. And – it’s showing up in the world. I am watching this new level of commitment play out in this moment, right now.

In this month’s Tip, I’m going to pass it on – I am going to lean into this idea for you. I want to help you identify and really feel the place where you are not quite showing up.

AND the next day, on another call, I got one more piece – the icing on the cake, around self-discipline. In an offhand conversation, I learned through my friend Rita what the Enneagram has to say about my stretch area: that my challenge area is around premature celebration.

Premature celebration. I get that. I get that to the bottom of my soul. It’s not about discipline, per se. It’s much deeper, has much more texture than simple “do it /don’t do it” discipline. This idea offers me something I can move towards, something I can get my teeth into. And it gives me a simple solution…it’s not about not celebrating – it’s about taking the little celebrations along the way, and making sure I get the whole job finished before I call it a wrap.

So – for those with whom this resonates, I offer it up.

Now, let’s get back to the action item. Head on to this month’s TIP (below) and get yourself some motivation!

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*The equation of change that I have identified is this: if your perception of the cost of being where you are is that it is less costly to you than what it will take to change, you will not change. The minute you emotionally connect to a high perception of cost for being where you are, change begins immediately. It begins as a natural consequence, without your head – your conscious determination – even being involved. This is the basis for the Discovery Sessions I offer. Connecting you with the true cost of the behavior or habit you want to change.

 

This Month’s TIP

 

How you do ANYTHING is how you do EVERYTHING

OK – here is where the rubber meets the road! You ready?

Get ready to play full out. Get some paper and a pen, and take some time to do this. If you can’t do it right now, set a time when you will do it, and come back.

Pick something simple that you have done within the last few hours. It might be making the bed or walking the dog. Pick something that has no emotional charge – just something you did.
Examine how you did it, microscopically. Look at every part of it, and ask yourself these questions:

How did I feel while I was doing this?
Did I do the best job I could do, or did I cut some corners?
Did I take my time or rush?
Was I multi tasking, or giving it the attention it deserved?
Was this important to me? If not, why was I doing it?
What emotion am I feeling as I think about it?
Did I finish it, or leave some for later?
What are all the details I can see in this, about how I am showing up?

Add whatever other questions occur to you. Examine it in depth.

Next – think about an area of your life in which you are frustrated, not getting the results you want, or the area you most want to change.

Ask yourself – how do the answers I have given above apply in this situation?

If you allow yourself to go deeply into this exploration, my advice to you is to take some Kleenex along on your journey. And as you are crying, or screaming in frustration, or whatever emotion is up for you – be thankful for all the roiling emotion you can feel. Because THAT is what is going to move you to change in the way that you want to change.

Now – let’s sneak in a little surprise…and stretch you a little more.

Ask yourself how you did THIS project. Because this will tell you things about how you value yourself.

If you didn’t allow yourself to go deep, look at that. Where else in your life is that true?
Did you get the pen and paper and give it attention?
If you set aside time to do it – YOU time – did you come back and take it?
Did you play full out?
Or did you blow yourself off?

Food for thought. I invite you to add this to your awareness. Notice how you do things, as you move through your day, and just have that thought in the back of your mind.

How you do anything is how you do everything.

About Scout

Scout is a lover of life, determined to squeeze out all the juice she can, and help others do the same.

Her rich background tells the story of a life lived full-out.  She has been a naturalist, a wilderness outfitter and guide, and is a private pilot. She has founded and and run a multi-million dollar custom home construction business, acted as the Executive Director of an international trade organization, and been VP of an international non profit.

All those things didn’t really answer the call in her heart. Her passion dribbled away, and she found herself lying awake, thinking “What’s wrong with me? What do I really love? What am I passionate about?”

And she did not have the answer.

There came a day when she woke up DONE with the question. Done with settling for a flatlined life. She decided to do whatever it took to change things, and went looking for – and found – the part of her that had gotten lost. Now her passion is helping others find the exact same thing.

Scout became fascinated by the power of the mind, to both move us forward and hold us back, and immersed herself in the study of human potential, and the new technologies that make change simple, quick and permenant.

Through her proprietary system, Traveling LIGHT, Scout guides people to clear the internal blocks to their inner power. People come away with a deep sense of who they are and why they are here. They follow their heart into action as naturally as walking through an open door.

 

Scout Recommends

 

Three Cheers for Eva Gregory!!

One of the things I have become more and more aware of in my own work
is how important my connection to universal energy is. I know it’s a loaded topic with words that push people’s buttons…so I’ll just talk about what is true to me
, and trust that you can translate for yourself as necessary.

For me, I call it my spiritual guidance, or my intuition. I’ve become more and more aware over the years of doing my Belief Breakthrough work that I receive powerful guidance from the Universe to take myself and other people exactly where they need to go.

A big step in becoming more volitional in this – asking for guidance and receiving clear, specific and useful information, was going through a program of Eva Gregory’s last summer, which was called Guidance on Demand. It was a fabulous training, and one of the most practical, down-to-earth trainings I did last year.

She is offering that course again, starting in February. She’s doing a preview call about the class, to let you know what all is involved. If this resonates with you, and you follow this link, you can learn all about it. http://tinyurl.com/6fut5kv